Confidence and Bullying

Written By: Jaimee

Feeling shy or shut out, like you can’t get your words out?

Don’t worry, everyone does. It may not be noticeable but everyone feels insecure about something, its life. People do not tend to talk much about their insecurities as they feel they will be judged and others may use it against them. But you also get obvious, common insecurities that most people feel. Such as ‘Am I good enough’ whether it be doubting the way you look, the way you act or the exams you may be preparing to take. If you are preparing for an exam or any type of work that you need to revise and work hard for, don’t stress too much as it can seriously affect your outcome.

Sometimes you need to take a step back, breath and find ways to calm yourself. Not trying to be a downer over here, but I’m just addressing things people are often afraid to talk about. I don’t really know why, I guess people try and avoid talking about self-confidence within any kind of situation because they don’t like expressing the things that make them uncomfortable because, well, it is exactly that, uncomfortable.

I personally find writing this slightly uncomfortable, but why should I? It’s not like I’m lying. Besides, one of the biggest problems I think most of us face is people judging us. We have all at least once singled out someone from a crowd before and said something we probably shouldn’t have, even if it’s discreetly. Why has it become so normal and easy to differentiate somebody badly just because we don’t like what they are wearing or how they have chosen to style themselves. I am all for freedom of speech, but there is a difference between speaking your mind and directing unnecessary nasty comments to people for no reason, leading to them feeling out of place and hurt. ‘Treat people how you would like to be treated’ is a saying which you’re probably sick of hearing, but it means nothing to some people as over 160,000 students avoid going to school every day due to the fear of being bullied. In my opinion that’s not fair, more people need to realise the way they carelessly treat others can seriously affect them!

If you are going through a rough time for whatever reason, no matter how big or small, if it’s important to you, then it’s important no matter what others may think of it. Just remember that it is not healthy to bottle your feelings up, it commonly causes depression and people to lash out. There are people you can talk to whether it be a teacher, friend or family member you trust or even websites such as childline. Just don’t isolate your feelings off like they are nothing. Emotions and how you feel affects how you live your life and if you let those emotions control you negatively then you could end up shutting out all the opportunities and good things in life.